I found a tool recently that most virtual professionals wouldn’t expect to find useful. Managing Our Anger – Managing Our Lives is a workbook that lets the user learn more about anger and stress. The workbook teaches emotional management techniques in an attractive format. Initiated lessons over several weeks leads the user to develop new habits. We know hostility would be toxic to our sweet solitary career choice. New habitual changes are emotionally healthier than staying in hostile stress.
A tangible tool for today and tomorrow, “Managing Our Anger” has great paper with plenty of room to make notes. People using the workbook find benefits the first time through. Having the workbook as a future reference is a valuable secondary benefit.
The 100 page workbook written by David Morgan, LCSW-R, CAMF and Samantha M Janosick, LCSW, CAMP was first intended to use with a highly respected, in-person anger management practice at Long Island Anger Management with offices in Stony Brook, NY and Riverhead, NY (longislandangermanagement.com). The program is strong with a solid certificate of accomplishment recognized by courts. At first glance, the workbook’s usefulness appears to be limited to the people who take the anger management course either in-person or via video conferencing.
Personal Anger Management On Your Own
Well, look again, virtual colleagues and others. This books generously been made available as a stand-alone workbook that can be worked through on your own. I can see the benefits of having more than one person working together for accountability and encouragement. Working with someone helps keep imagined issues from accelerating.
Working virtually often means working in a high level of solitude. The peace and quiet of the solitary office makes some possibilities of emotional stress and resultant anger lower than for people who are caught in the rat-race of working in more crowded conditions.
Those of us working from a distance must be watchful that we don’t lose touch with truth and reality. There is more necessity to negotiate the communication field of chats, text messages, emails, forums and social media. All of these formats are textual content, often produced in black and white. Professional people are reluctant to risk over use of emoji caricatures even though they can be helpful in expressing true opinions.
Your Snotty Messages Make Me Angry
I have received communication in all of the above examples which ‘felt’ as if I were being YELLED at. The message is delivered impatiently with venom. Directives that could be taken as insulting, disrespectful and hurtful. The battle within sets off. Will I snap back? Or will I look at the format, take a deep breath and assume the message isn’t meant to be hyper-critical and hurtful?
Though I don’t take the communication to a higher hostile level, it is difficult to fight being defensive and distrustful. The format may be the only destructive weapon pressing toward a deteriorating relationship. It is highly effective…dangerous and destructive.
Could what I’ve described be interpreted as Anger? You bet your sweet bippy it is Anger! I’m not talking about open hostility or violence whixh lead to the court mandating anger management. Instead we find health breaking stress and dread. I’m much more likely to ‘fire’ that client than others with whom I do not have such a stressful relationship. Isn’t that a losing proposition for both my business and theirs? I am in the virtual assistant business for a reason. The clients choose my services because they needed them.
Anger Management Has Potential in Virtual Careers
Battling clients, providers and team members lose financially and in work/life harmony. Angry stress and impatient communications feed battles that began as little things. One day, the business goals and intent which brought us together become victims of emotional mismanagement.
I want more mature, prosperous ways to create and maintain business relationships away from communication traps that lead to angry break-ups. Certainly, these relationship wrecks cost money at every level. I can only manage myself and my perspectives.
For myself, as I move forward, I’m very pleased with this useful workbook that I can use to develop perspectives and habits that permits my career to prosper. I invite you to take a look. Your business and health could benefit when you tame virtual anger with new, healthier points of view.
Your chance to get your own copy awaits at the links in this post. And read a slightly different review from me.